Enjoy Your Life

Change Your Point of View to Enjoy Your Life

If you want to enjoy your life, then you must change your point of view to see the life.

"Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars."- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts

If you’ve placed second in a writing contest, will you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or will you be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again?

In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to take the optimist’s route and take a challenging and fulfilling life.

So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?

Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma.

On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.

Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back up why it really pays to be an optimist:

Optimists expect the best

The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they do, are their own fault.

The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune---it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case.

Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.

They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”

Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.

People respond positively to optimists

Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with.

Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably.

In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial and sought for advice.

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher

Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.

They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.

Optimists are healthier and live longer

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease.

Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts.

So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.

Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors? Why not be resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored glasses and see life in the bright side?

Be an optimistic from Today

Commandments For Parents

12 COMMANDMENTS FOR PARENTS

In a child’s education an important factor is the parents’ expertise for this “job”. No one is born holding all the knowledge, but we can learn and understand some things from books or advice from qualified persons.

Amongst the commandments a parent should strictly follow are the following:

1. Do not underestimate your child – he can understand more than you think he does and if you make him believe you think poorly of him this might affect his development.

2. Don’t use threat – a child loves a challenge and once threatened he might probably go on and do what he wasn’t suppose to just to see if he can escape the punishment.

3. Do not bribe your child – if you are trying to get him to learn for money for example, he will fail to understand the importance of learning, all he will get from this is the importance of money.

4. Do not make a small child promise something – small children can’t hold promises so don’t force them to lie and then punish them because they did that.

5. Do not keep them under a short leash – to grow up normally children need some space, some freedom.

6. Do not use big words or too many words when you are talking to your child – keep your ideas simple and concise so he can understand every thing you have to say.

7. Do not expect an immediate and blind obedience – it is not recommended, the child has to be learned to think for his own not to follow orders.

8. Do not indulge him too mush – he can develop compartmental disorders.

9. Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game – the trick for a game to become educative is too have its initial rules respected.

10. Don’t impose rules that don’t go with the age of your child.

11. Do not try to inflict quilt – quilt is not an appropriate feeling for children, especially if they are little.

12. Don’t give your child orders that you don’t take seriously – your child will try to please you and giving him an order is drastic, and it becomes cruel if that order is a joke.

All these “commandments” are addressed first to the parent. But they are to be referred to by teachers and educators as well. Along with the parents, they will settle upon an attitude and strategy for the education and growth of the child, so that they can give him all the things he needs to properly develop emotional and physically.

Treat your child as a gift from GOD.

Thattuvams to Enjoy

Thattuvams Collections - Hope u'll enjoy..

1) Innaiku thoonguna nalaiku enthirikalam.aana naalaiku thoonguna inaiku enthirika mudiyuma????

2) Bus la collector yae erinalum.. mudhal seetu driveruku than......

3) Cycle carrierla tiffen-a vechu eduthuttu pogalam Aana... Tiffin carrierla cycle-a vechu eduthuttu poga mudiyathu... ???

4) Ticket vangittu ulla ponna adhu cinema theater anna ulla poittu ticket vanginaa adhu operation theater.

5) Enna than meenuku neendha therinjalum adhala meen kolambula neendha mudiyadhu

6) iron boxla iron panna mudiyum ....ana pencil box la pencil panna mudiyuma? ...........idhuthan valka........

7) Ne Enna than costly mobile vachirundhalum, Athula evalavu than recharge pannalum, unnalla unakku call panna mudiyathu..

8) cream biscuitla cream irukkum, ana nai biscuitla nai irukkuma?

9) puyalala karaya kadaka mudiyum.. karayala puyala kadaka mudiyuma

10) Oru erumbu nenacha 1000 yanaya kadikkum. Ana 1000 yana nenachalum oru erumba kooda kadikka mudiyadhu..

112) Nee Evalavu periya dance master'a irundhalum un saavuku unnala aada mudiyathu

12) trainukku ticket vaangi platformla okkaralam ana platformukku ticket vaangi trainla poga mudiyadhu

13) railway stationla police station irukkalam ana police stationla railway station irukka mudiyadhu

Be the Reason

Be the reason
for someone's Happiness,
never a part of it!


Be a part
of someone's sadness,
never the reason for it!

Use this in LIFE

Use... this... in... life

Talk-------------Softly

Walk--------------Humbly

Eat-----------------Sensibly

Breathe------------------Deeply

Sleep--------------------Sufficiently

Dress-------------------------Smartly

Act-----------------------------Fearlessly

Work-------------------------------Patiently

Think---------------------------------Truthfully

Believe----------------------------------Correctly

Behave---------------------------------------Decently

Learn-------------------------------------------Practically

Plan---------------------------------------------------Orderly

Earn--------------------------------------------------------Honestly

Save------------------------------------------------------------Regularly

Spend-------------------------------------------------------------Intelligently

Love-------------------------------------------------------------------Passionately

ENJOY--------------------------------------------------------------------COMPLETELY



Courtesy : Sajith

Amazing things in Life

Hi,

The Best amazing things in life!!!

How amazing!! - A mother makes her son "INTELLIGENT" in 20 years, but a girl makes him "STUPID" in 2 mins.

Second Best:

Arguing with a girl is like wrestling with a pig in the mud. After some time, u realizes that u r getting dirty, but the pig is actually enjoying.

Third Best:

Boys go to college to develop the mind, girls go to college to catch them before this happens.


Courtesy : Sajith.

Life is a gift to be enjoyed

Life is not a problem to be solved, but a gift to be enjoyed

Hi,


One day I decided to quit...
I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality...
I wanted to quit my life.

I went to the woods to have one last talk with GOD.
"GOD", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?"
His answer surprised me...

"Look around", GOD said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"

"Yes", I replied.

"When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo." GOD said.

"In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit.

In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo see. I would not quit." GOD said.

"Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant...But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle." GOD said to me.

"Did you know, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots?"

"I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you."

"Don't compare yourself to others." GOD said. "The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful."

"Your time will come", GOD said to me. "You will rise high"

"How high should I rise?" I asked.

"How high will the bamboo rise?" GOD asked in return.

"As high as it can?" I questioned

"Yes." GOD said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can."

I left the forest and bring back this story. I hope these words can help you see that GOD will never give up on you.

GOD will never give up on you

"Life is not a problem to be solved, but a gift to be enjoyed"


Keep Smiling




Courtesy : Sajith.

Honest Reply to HR Questions

Techie's Inner Voice - Honest Reply to HR Questions.

If we were to Honestly reply to all the HR Questions they would go something like this

1. Why did you apply for this job?

I have applied for many jobs along with this and you called me now.

2. Why do you want to work for this company?

I have to work for some company who ever gives me a job, I don't have any specific company in mind.

3. Why should I hire you?

You have to hire some one, you may give me a try.

4.What would you do if we hire you?

Well, it depends on my mindset but I will try to work on whatever is allotted to me.


5.What is your biggest strength?

Basically, daring to join any company who pays me well, without thinking of the fate of company.


6.What is your biggest weakness?

Girls

7.What was your worst mistake, and how did you learn from it?

Joining my earlier company and learn that I need to jump to get more money, so I am here today!


8. What accomplishments in your last position are you most proud of?

Had I accomplished any in my last position, why do I need to change my job? I could demand more and stay there.


9.Describe a challenge you faced and how you overcame it?

Biggest challenge is answering the question "why are you looking for a change" and I started blabbering irrelevantly to overcome that.


10.Why did you leave/ are you leaving your last job?

For the same reason why you left your earlier job... more money


11.What do you want from this job?

If no work is given but keep giving good hikes


12.What are your career goals and how do you plan to achieve them?

Make more money and for that keep jumping companies for every 2 yrs


13.Did you hear of our company and what do you know of us?

Yeah, I know that you will ask this, I've gone through your website


14.What is the salary expected and how do u justify that?

Well, no one will change job for the same salary, hence, give me 20% extra than what I am getting and that is unpublished industry standard (I know you will bargain on what ever I ask, hence, I have already hiked my current salary by 30%).

Sajith

Excellence is a drive from Inside not Outside

A gentleman was once visiting a temple under construction. In the temple premises, he saw a sculptor making an idol of God. Suddenly he saw, just a few meters away, another identical idol was lying.

Surprised he asked the sculptor, "Do you need two statutes of the same idol".

"No" said the sculptor. "We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage".

The gentleman examined the sculptor. No apparent damage was visible.

"Where is the damage" asked the gentleman.

"There is a scratch on the nose of the idol".

"Where are you going to keep the idol".

The sculptor replied that it will be installed on a pillar 20 feet high.

"When the idol will be 20 feet away from the eyes of the beholder, who is going to know that there is scratch on the nose?" the gentleman asked.

The sculptor looked at the gentleman, smiled and said, "The God knows it and I know it ".

The desire to excel should be exclusive of the fact whether someone appreciates it or not.

Excellence is a drive from "Inside" not "Outside".

Sajith